Alchemy of a touch

‘This is not the Indian way,’ is how most Indian men/women dismiss the lack of expression of affection or physical intimacy, but it is something most partners appear to crave for. While an average Indian partner (especially those from the smaller towns) are shy about any public display of physical affection from her spouse, he/she certainly hankers for it from the partner in private, and that too, separate from any sexual activity.

Experts say female desire depends more on the context of a relationship. Much more depends on her mood, energy level, good feelings and absence of conflict and an element of romance than a direct physiological response to touch. Women don’t want their lack of interest to be interpreted as rejection.

Partners should not keep a scorecard on how often their partner responds. This kind of pressure and guilt isn’t helpful. A minority of women feel frustrated when their husbands don’t show interest in love-making or affection.... and same's true vice-versa.. It is a challenge to their sexuality and frustrates to their own need to feel loved, desired or attractive in their partner’s eyes.

You may be single at this time..Well, I am.....Being single doesn’t mean that you don’t need touching and physical closeness in your daily life. Especially if you have recently ended a relationship, you may be missing the hugs, kisses, embraces and handholding that you once had. Your life and the world do not stop because you’re not currently in a loving relationship-neither does your need for physical closeness and touching. The art of touching encompasses non-sexual as well as sexual touch. It’s equally important, whether you are single or in a relationship, to get your daily allowance of touching. Demonstrating physical closeness with family and friends is one way to elevate your mood, allowing you to feel loved and fulfilled, while giving love to others.


If you are in a relationship, both sexual and non-sexual touches are important. During the euphoric stage of a relationship, sexual touch predominates. You can’t keep your hands off of each other. When mature love begins, non-sexual touch becomes more important, as touch takes on an additional meaning. While sexual touch can communicate sexual feelings, non-sexual touch can simply communicate your love, care, and affection for one another. Physical closeness and touching stimulates the continued growth of your loving relationships. If your partner is tired and interprets your touch as a desire for sex, it may result in your partner pulling away from you-which may leave you feeling rejected. If your partner frequently thinks that you want to have sex, when in fact you don’t, he or she could develop performance anxiety. Experts say it is not uncommon for one partner to need more physical connection than the other. Its very normal: we are all different, with different backgrounds, experiences, and needs.
The practice of touching one another daily reinforces and strengthens your relationship. It is the conduit between two individuals that allows them to connect as one.